I met Arielle Loren, Director of the aptly titled documentary “Bideology” during my travels in Salvador, Bahia, Brazil. Someway or another in our conversation we began talking about the Black community being remiss in not cultivating safe spaces for gay, bi-sexual, or otherwise queer identified Black men, cornering many brothas into being closeted homosexuals.
Her documentary is inspired by a real situation that occured in her life, prompting the NYU graduate to make a feature legnth film about it. What impressed me most about the film, and her subsequent inquiry into the topic of being in a relationship with a bisexual man, is that rather than ignore it (as many women do), become enraged (the logical response), she endeavored to engage an audience of women and men in dialogue about the subject.
Bideology is a must see. I came away with some new and very interesting points of view after watching it.Check out the trailer below:
BIDEOLOGY (Trailer) from Arielle Loren on Vimeo.
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Dope video. Just curious, though, as to what you mean by “the logical response” being rage. I mean, the internet is short on vocal tone, so maybe you’re just being snarky, but, if not, is it really logical to get enraged with someone over their sexuality? Just curious as to what you meant there.
Thanks and I look forward to checking out more stuff on your blog!
Hi Puck. Thanks for checking in to my blog and for your question. I would agree that to be enraged over someones sexuality is counter-productive. However, if this is something that has been kept a secret, that is another thing altogether, would you agree? I just want to be able to be able to make my own decision on whether I want to be in a relationship with a bi-sexual man as opposed to being blind sighted by it! (-_-)
I appreciate that this dialougue is coming about. I have not dated a bisexual man (to my knowledge)…but have recently asked myself if i would. I’ve been in a situation with close male friends who were homosexual, but were attracted to me enough to consider a relationship. Although i opted not to go that path, I definitely found myself conflicted with some questions that i asked myself concerning hang-ups with dating bi/gay men. Looking forward to watching the documentary.
Kalil…that is quite interesting. It is something to ponder. I think more men than we know have same sex desires and act on them in some way. I just think it is important for honesty to become part of the dialogue. Keep a lookout for the documentary…it was a great watch!
That’s the key. Dialogue. This is with anything though. Give me the option instead of making the decision for me by keeping me in the dark. That’s not to say I would or wouldn’t, just allow me to decide.